Tuesday, February 24, 2015

Lady days

Miss Pixie Lou 
on her
"lady days"
 As if I needed one more thing on my plate, I get a side of a dog in heat topped off with her spotting all over the house...I am walking around with a mop and bucket all while keeping Tealyn from slipping and sliding and making sure she doesn't go into any of the carpeted rooms 
She is attracting so many dogs it's unbelievable. So far I have chased away a Pomeranian, Chihuahua, and a large grown Chow from my backyard. We repaired part of the neighbors fence and I even called the pound on one dog that scratched on my front door for three days without leaving.
I have already called the vet/clinic with a long list of questions regarding her getting


I can't wait.

Tuesday, February 17, 2015

What NOT ask an adoptive parent

We have always been open to our family, friends and whoever else that is curious to know our adoption story.  It is beautiful and we feel so blessed having Tealyn in our lives so, why not?....But, unfortunately the questions that come with that are sometimes truly hurtful and have left me with a knot in my throat, speechless, and at times in tears...Here are some of those questions.
Brace yourselves!

:Who is the"real mother"? is her "real mother"?
Implying that I am not the "real mother"

I always answer this one sort of sarcastically "I am" and they almost always answer "you know what I mean"? (" No I don't" is what I wish I could say) After that I completely shut down. I don't even hear the conversation anymore, It's all background noise. I am so emotionally hurt.

* By the way I never give out personal and sensitive information about birth mother ever *

:Does her "mother" know her?
I find myself saying " You mean her birth mother" again, and again and again and again and again.... I have repeated this so many times to so many people. I feel a knot at the pit of my stomach, and I tend to just shy away or change the subject..

:Aren't you afraid that she might take her away from you?
I never answer this one. Why do you think it's okay for you to ask this? The look on my face says it all. My eyes start getting glossy and there really are no words. How do you answer an absurd question like this?  I go into shutdown mode, and again it's all background noise. Adoption is a real legal change involving the courts, I am not babysitting.

:How much did she cost?
Yes, I have been asked this... I say " lots and lots of prayer and love" in a nice and polite, but with a little bit of a sarcastic undertone (just a little) usually leaves them speechless.

:Are you afraid she will want to meet her "real mom" one day?
(I sometimes get this one after I have already reminded them that she is the birth mom.) I mean really... How do you answer this personal and sensitive question? and why is it okay to ask this type question at a supermarket when I haven't seen you since high school over 25 years ago? (Yes, this really did happen)

Don't get me wrong not everyone we run into at the supermarket or mall asks us questions in this way. Most people are polite, genuinely happy for us, and just wish us all the best. I understand a lot of people are curious and not familiar with how the adoption process works and I get that. I do. but don't forget how you pose a question to an adoptive parent makes all the difference in the way the conversation continues...

The truth of the matter is that we are in a legal semi-open adoption and we are going with the flow. We don't know what the future holds for BM or the future relationship she may have with our Tealyn. We continue praying for her and ask God to guide us. The one thing I do know that's for sure is that God knows our hearts and knows what's best.

There, I've said my peace.

Monday, February 9, 2015

February joy

I just love, love February maybe because it's a short month and everywhere I go I see lots of candy, sweets and everyone just seems more nicer.... I wonder why?...

I made this simple dollar store doily heart garland a couple weeks ago. I thought it would be fun  for Tealyn to start seeing touches of Valentine decorations around our home. Maybe she's too young to understand I don't know, but I feel it sort of brings excitement into her little dazzling eyes.
And besides I love to do SIMPLE crafts
Everytime she points to it I say "heart" and she repeats in her own mumbling baby way.
found this pretty little chevron heart wreath for a whopping price of 9.99 at
Big Lots 
I love Big Lots
Because when there is 
in my home there is 
in my
I rearranged our living room twice since taking off the Christmas decorations and I have to say I love it this way.. It just feels fresh and clutter free. I feel like it's a little more spacious. I LOVE little changes like this makes me feel sane in these sleep deprived days.
Im hoping I get more blooms from this Christmas cactus my sweet neighbor gave me.  Someone told me I need to hide her in a dark cold closet for the the spring and summer then bring her out again in the fall.
Is that true?